Episode 42: Should You Break Up? A Couples Therapist's Honest Take.

When a relationship is struggling, the real question might be less "How do we fix this?" and more "What's the best next step?" 

Inspired by an essay from a writer who felt couples therapy prolonged a failing marriage instead of helping her see it was over, Dr. Rebecca and Dr. Alex take a hard look at the expectations around relationship counseling. Is “success” defined by staying together or by reaching clarity…even if that clarity leads to parting ways?

Whether you're navigating a crossroads in your own relationship or supporting someone else through theirs, this nuanced and compassionate conversation will help you approach either reconciliation or separation with greater care, honesty, and respect.

What you'll learn:

  • Something that Dr. Rebecca always asks a couple before therapy even begins

  • Why some couples therapists avoid bringing up divorce directly, even when it's clearly on a client's mind

  • How many people end up communicating better during their divorce than they ever did as a married couple

Tune in if you've ever thought:

  • "Is our relationship even worth saving?”

  • "We've stopped fighting. Is that a good sign or a bad one?" 

  • "It feels like my therapist and partner are ganging up on me in appointments.”

  • "If we do end up splitting up, how do we not ruin our kids in the process?"

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Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

Website: rebeccaeudy.com

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Dr. Alexandra DiGrado

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Instagram: @bostonpelvicpt

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