Episode 44: The Power of Novelty in Long-Term Relationships
Long-term relationships can offer trust, security, inside jokes, and the comfort of a partner you can count on…but the routines and daily logistics that come along with them can often bury the spark that first brought you together.
In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy and pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Alex DiGrado explore why feeling bored in your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with you or your partner, but rather that there’s an opportunity for change.
They discuss how novelty - whether it’s a new restaurant, a local adventure, a weekend away, or simply trying something different together (even if it doesn’t go as planned!) can help couples feel more curious, playful, connected, and alive, in and out of the bedroom.
What You'll Learn:
Why the differences that first attract us to a partner can feel more frustrating once daily life and logistics enter the picture.
How to introduce more novelty without creating pressure or making it feel like a performance.
How seeing your partner in a different setting, whether they’re charming the waiter or meeting your coworkers, can renew curiosity and attraction.
Why a terrible interpretive-dance show or another imperfect adventure can still become a relationship-building shared memory.
Tune in if you've ever thought:
"We used to have so much chemistry...now we're just roommates."
"I want more excitement in our relationship, but my partner seems fine with how things are."
"Every time I try to plan a fun date night, I put so much pressure on it that it kind of ruins the fun."
"I'm not going to have an affair, but I get why people do."
Helpful Resources
Find a pelvic floor PT near you: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global Directory
Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy
Connect with us:
Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy
Website: rebeccaeudy.com
Instagram: @rebeccahowardeudy
Newsletter: Parents in Love Substack
Dr. Alexandra DiGrado
Website: bostonpelvicpt.com
Instagram: @bostonpelvicpt
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