Episode 5: Keeping Love Alive After Baby - Attachment Repair and Connection Strategies
What happens to love, sex, and connection when kids enter the picture? In this episode, Dr. Alex DiGrado (pelvic floor PT, Melrose, MA) interviews Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy (sex & couples therapist, Boston) about her new book Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. They unpack why couples feel like roommates in early parenthood, how to navigate late-night fights, and what it really means to “Do No Harm” when no one’s sleeping or thriving. You’ll also learn how the Notice–Own–Connect framework helps couples move from blame to repair, and how small gestures can rebuild intimacy long before you’re back in the bedroom.
What You’ll Learn
What the “Do No Harm Agreement” is and when to use it
How stress, exhaustion, and unmet expectations create conflict cycles—and how to pause before they spiral
About rupture and repair in relationships (and why repair never happens by accident)
A crash course in attachment theory and why every couple gets stuck in predictable cycles of disconnection
How to “blame the cycle, not each other” to turn fights into opportunities for closeness
Tune in if you’ve ever thought:
“We love each other, so why do we keep fighting about stupid stuff like the dishwasher?”
“Are we broken, or just exhausted?”
“How do we reconnect when there’s no time, no sleep, and no spark?”
“Is it possible to repair after the baby years… and actually feel in love again?”
Resources
Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. by Rebecca Howard Eudy
Find a pelvic floor PT: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global Directory
Connect with Us:
Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy → rebeccaeudy.com | Instagram @rebeccahowardeudy
Dr. Alex DiGrado → bostonpelvicpt.com | Instagram @bostonpelvicpt
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