Episode 3: What No One Tells You About Postpartum Intimacy (sex after having a baby)

Written By Katharine Seim

Episode Summary

“Six weeks and you’re good to go” is not the whole story. In this candid conversation, Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy (sex & couples therapist, Boston) and Dr. Alex DiGrado (pelvic floor PT, Melrose, MA) break down why postpartum sexual health is complex. From scar care, pelvic-floor coordination, breastfeeding-related dryness, and smart lube choices to identity shifts, “touched out” fatigue, and how to ease back in (think: first base, then second), you’ll get a realistic, compassionate roadmap for reconnecting with your body and your partner.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why the 6-week “all clear” ≠ fully healed, and what realistic timelines look like

  • Pelvic floor changes after birth: tension + weakness + trigger points, and how coordination beats “just Kegels”

  • Hormones and how they affect sexual  and pelvic health and desire

  • How to re-start intimacy gently: kissing-only nights, pressure-free progression, and broadening what “counts as sex”

  • When to see a pelvic floor PT and why early help prevents pain/tension cycles 

  • The “touched out” paradox, and how communication and scheduling actually boost desire

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

  • “We got the 6-week clearance, so… why doesn’t sex feel okay yet?”

  • “Is this pain normal, or should I see a pelvic floor PT?”

  • “Why is my orgasm MIA after birth?”

  • “How do we feel close again when we’re exhausted and ‘touched out’?”

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Katharine Seim
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