Episode 50: (Part 2) Rewiring the Blueprint with Sarah Harmon

Written By Katharine Seim

Last week on Under the Hood, therapist, mindfulness teacher, and School of Mom founder Sarah Harmon joined sex & relationship therapist Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy and pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Alex DiGrado to talk about the “mother bucket” - that core need for love and affirmation every child hopes their parent will fill (catch up on Part 1 here).

This week in Part 2, we’re diving into the underlying patterns that dictate how we show up in adulthood as partners and parents today. If you catch yourself doing the exact thing you swore you’d never do—and wonder why "knowing better" hasn't helped you stop—this episode is for you.

What you’ll learn:

  • Your Relationship Blueprint: How the way your parents handled conflict (whether they fought like crazy or never disagreed) shapes how you react to your partner today.

  • Breaking Family Cycles: How to stop passing “the invisible baton” of generational patterns like guilt, shame, and defensiveness on to your kids.

  • Living on Autopilot: Why most of your emotional reactions happen automatically without you even realizing it.

  • Real-Life Parenting: The value of guiding your kids through hard emotions like anxiety and anger instead of trying to avoid them altogether.

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

  • “I swore I’d never guilt trip my kid the way my mom guilted me…and yet here we are…”

  • “I teach my kids that having ‘big feelings’ is ok… until they actually express them, and then I snap.”

  • “Why does a simple comment about dishes in the sink make me feel like I’m failing at everything?”

  • “I’ve talked about this in therapy a million times. Why am I still doing it?”

  • “Does working on all of this ‘cycle-breaking’ stuff ever get any easier?”

Helpful resources:

Connect with us:

Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy
Website: rebeccaeudy.com
Instagram: @rebeccahowardeudy
Newsletter: Parents in Love Substack

Dr. Alexandra DiGrado
Website: bostonpelvicpt.com
Instagram: @bostonpelvicpt
Newsletter: Under the Hood

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Katharine Seim
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Episode 49: (Part 1) The “Mother Bucket” with Sarah Lowell Harmon